Being open and upfront is so unappreciated these days. You meet someone you like, and lay your cards on the table, you end up being ridiculed, you are being gawked at for being true. People would rather you play games. You conceal your emotions, so you don’t look cheap or desperate. They rather you act tough as a man and not be in tune with your emotions. No one wants to be played but we all forget the purpose of love. If we make love safe, then it is no longer worth it. No matter what I experience positive or negative, I will never give up on being true to myself, or seeking to bond on a deeper level with someone I truly love. I am not for this new age love. I can’t deal. If it isn’t real, if it isn’t intense, if there isn’t any sacrifice or difficulty count me out.
Love will never only be about the good times; the hard times make it all worth it. I love myself and definitely know I deserve the best. So here I am saying no to half measures, saying no to playing games, saying no to lying to myself, but most especially saying no to defeat in the pursuit of real love. To love is to be strong as opposed to how people see it as a weakness. To love is to live true, to live bright.
I wouldn’t go into the topic of loyalty, being loyal is now outdated, people date like they are engaging in a leisure activity, like a sport I would say. Having many options is now the new normal. This is seen in men and women alike. Normally, it would be easy to say a woman can date more than one suitor, so she can get to know or gauge the level of interest before she chooses one to commit to but what we see now is an outright abuse of this privilege to entertain more than one suitor casually with little or no remorse.
Ladies aren’t to blame alone, we also have men who have a short list of options and go on stringing women along just to make sure they feel smart and avoid the short end of the stick. Like I said earlier this is so wrong, it is viewing the whole process like a game where you make sure by all means you don’t lose.
The truth is in order to find true love you must risk it all, as with many ventures in life there is a level of risk involved and the earlier we see that the quest for a deep and true relationship requires sacrifice, requires selflessness, the better for this generation. Our attention span is shorter now with technology replacing actual human interaction. People hardly sit across one another and talk things through. They would rather interact on social media than in person. We must bring back dates, casual hangouts, love letter writing, men must start acting like gentlemen, women on the other hand have to act right, being a lady is not just a title, it is a way of life, the same goes for the men.
We need to school the young ones, now that they are impressionable, so they don’t end up like us. I certainly know I have made my fair share of mistakes, but I am willing to man up and say that I must improve and influence others to do the same. So here is my first step, I am offering my sincere apologies to every woman I may have hurt in my journey to self-discovery. I am truly sorry for my actions and the hurt I have caused.
Search within for love always before looking to find it in another. Let love blossom, let it breathe, let it live.